MY Approach
“Even the most exalted states and exceptional spiritual accomplishments are unimportant if we cannot be happy in the most basic and ordinary ways, if we cannot touch one another and the life we have been given with our hearts.”
“Tenderly, I now touch all
things,
knowing one day we will
part. ”
Each of us is beautifully unique, valuable and irreplaceable, yet our childhoods often did not support us knowing our true worth. Many of us suffered the heartbreak of abuse and/or neglect from caregivers. Even well-intentioned parents caught up in personal struggles of their own can inflict serious damage on our young, vulnerable beings. In fact, we may have been raised by loving, emotionally-attuned families- but perhaps an overwhelming event or circumstance impacted us deeply and changed our relationship to ourselves and to life itself forever after.
As kids, we can’t help but introject the pain of early relational wounding or traumatic events and develop a belief that we are the problem. We develop unconscious strategies (people-pleasing, perfectionism, endless striving, avoidance, self-sabotage, etc…) to manage the anxiety of feeling helpless and disconnected. As adults, we begin to recognize the adaptations that once saved us are now barriers to living lives of freedom, connection, and joy.
Those who received inconsistent nurturance learned to please others and “earn” love by care-taking or being “perfect”- and now feel empty or worthless without external validation. (Anxious Attachment)
If we suffered emotional deprivation, with no one truly safe and available for us, we shut down our conscious desire for connection and endure lives of isolation, unable to reach out or depend upon others . (Avoidant Attachment)
On either end of this continuum, we doubt that connection could ever work out for us. (It can <3). A shift towards the healing middle path is possible. Each phase of life affords deeper insight and clarity about who we really are and what we truly want. Every moment holds opportunity to meet childhood fear with adult courage, compassion, and agency.
Incorporating Buddhist Philosophy, Depth Psychology, Yogic Principles, Mindfulness, Somatic Experiencing (a shock & sexual-trauma resolution model), NARM (Neuro-Affective Relational Model, for complex-relational trauma), Internal Family Systems, Mindset Coaching, Metaphysics, Quantum Physics, Attachment Theory, Energy Medicine, Plant Medicine Integration, Law of Attraction…
Along with a lifetime of hard-won wisdom, compassion, & natural intuition, my approach is spiritual, scientific, integrative and holistic.
“When a personality is in full balance, we cannot see where it ends and the soul begins.”